The Mississippi Supreme Court recently addressed a similar scenario in Jenkins v. Jenkins.  In Jenkins, the court was faced with a situation where the lower court granted a person a divorce on the ground of Habitual, Cruel and Inhuman Treatment.  The guilty spouse tried to defend the charge by claiming the defense of “recrimination”, which is a common-law defense that states if each party proves a fault ground for divorce then neither is entitled to a divorce.  The defense of recrimination has been altered by Miss. Code Ann. 93-5-3, which allows a court to grant a divorce, even if both parties prove a fault ground for divorce, by determining which spouse’s actions constituted the proximate cause of the destruction of the marriage.  The Mississippi Supreme Court determined that although the wife admitted committing adultery, the trial evidence showed that the husband’s habitual, cruel and inhuman treatment was the cause of the divorce, not the wife’s adultery, and that the lower court properly denied the husband’s recrimination defense.

Although a scenario where both parties are committing actions that constitute divorce grounds is not the preferable situation, a spouse may still be able to obtain a divorce without his/her spouse’s consent if the facts are supportive.  If you find yourself in this situation, speaking with an attorney to help analyze the proximate cause of the destruction of the marriage very early on is vital.

In Mississippi, for a spouse to prove adultery, there must be clear and convincing evidence of both an adulterous inclination and a reasonable opportunity to satisfy that inclination.  Adultery can be proven by circumstantial evidence because the secretive nature of adultery normally prevents someone from obtaining direct evidence of what occurred behind closed doors.  The evidence of adultery must be logical and be inconsistent with a theory of innocence.  A classic example would be evidence that a husband claimed to be going on a business trip to another state but was seen kissing a woman (not his wife), entering a local motel room her and not leaving until the morning.  Of course, this does not provide any evidence of what occurred in the motel room but the evidence would clearly demonstrate facts inconsistent with a theory of innocence and would likely result in a finding of adultery. 

In a Mississippi divorce case, once a spouse proves adultery, the court will decide issues such as child custody and the division of assets.  So not only does the innocent spouse discover the cheating ways of the adulterous spouse, everyone takes a large financial hit with the asset division.  Sadly, however, the pain caused by adultery does not always end quickly.  Often, the destruction of trust caused by the cheating impacts people’s ability to act reasonably after a divorce is concluded.  This usually manifests itself in an unreasonable level of anger, an inability to communicate with the former spouse and frequent post-divorce contempt actions.  It can even result in a lawsuit being filed against the paramour for Alienation of Affections.  Adultery is possibly the most destructive of the divorce grounds in Mississippi. 

If you are the innocent spouse in an adultery situation, it is important to speak with a lawyer quickly to determine the best way to preserve evidence if you decide to pursue a divorce and so that you will understand what is necessary should you pursue a divorce.  Even resuming normal marital relations with your spouse after learning of an affair may drastically impact your ability to pursue a divorce on the ground of adultery. 

As for Tiger, his adulterous actions may cost him his family, fortune and possibly his career.  He will still remain a wealthy after a divorce, but the image he cultivated over the years that has contributed to his staggering earnings has likely been permanently tarnished.

1.  Natural Impotency

2.  Adultery

3. Being sentenced to any penitentiary, and not pardoned before being sent there

4.  Willful, continued and obstinate desertion for the space of one (1) year

5. Habitual drunkenness

6. Habitual and excessive use of opium, morphine or other like drug

7. Habitual cruel and inhuman treatment

8. Mental illness or mental retardation at the time of marriage, if the party complaining did not know of that infirmity

9. Marriage to some other person at the time of the pretended marriage between the parties

10. Pregnancy of the wife by another person at the time of the marriage, if the husband did not know of the pregnancy

11. Either party may have a divorce if they are related to each other within the degrees of kindred whom marriage is prohibited by law

12. Incurable mental illness

Obviously, some of the divorce grounds are going to be more frequently used than others.  For example, adultery and habitual, cruel and inhuman treatment are the most commonly asserted grounds for divorce while others like natural impotency and being related to one another are very seldomly asserted. 

In later posts, we’ll discuss in more detail the individual grounds for divorce and what constitutes each ground.  If you are considering a divorce, a quick review of the allowable divorce grounds should provide an overview of what circumstances need to exist in order to get a divorce without the consent of your spouse.

Typically, the husband and wife both sign a document called a Joint Complaint in which they ask the court to grant them a divorce on the basis that irreconcilable differences have arisen between them.  Usually there is a written agreement attached to the Joint complaint that addresses the division of assets and debt, provides for custody and visitation and addresses other issues important in a divorce.  Both spouses will also need to complete a financial statement, unless they agree to waive that requirement.  Once the Joint Complaint is signed, it is filed with the Chancery Clerk’s office in the county of either spouse’s residence, if both are Mississippi residents.  If one of the spouses is not a Mississippi resident, then it should be filed in the county where the Mississippi resident lives.  The Chancery Clerk will require the parties to pay a filing fee at the time they file the Joint Complaint. 

Once the Joint Complaint is filed, it must remain on file for at least 60 days before the judge has the authority to grant the divorce.  In comparison to divorces based on grounds such as adultery, the 60 day period is pretty quick.  During that 60 day waiting period, it is important to remember that you are not divorced.  Even though an agreement has been reached on a divorce, no spouse likes to see their husband/wife displaying their new “companion” in public and such actions often result in litigation.

Once the 60 day waiting period is over, your lawyer will meet with the judge to present the written agreement for approval.  The Court will review the agreement, along with the financial statements, to determine if the agreement is adequate and sufficient.  If so, the Court will sign a document called a Judgment of Divorce that, when filed with the Chancery Clerk, will grant the divorce and end the marriage. 

There are other ways to obtain a divorce on the ground of Irreconcilable Differences and there are variations to the process, but this procedure is the most common.  If you are considering a divorce, you should contact an attorney to discuss your options.  Because of its simple procedure, many people try to get divorced without an attorney.  While this may save a little money on the front end, you may end up with a really bad divorce agreement that you cannot change.  It is well-worth the investment in an attorney to make sure your divorce is done properly.

The Mississippi Legislature has identified twelve situations where a party is entitled to a divorce without their spouse’s consent.  The fifth situation is habitual drunkenness.  The legislature did not provide any guidance as to what it considers habitual drunkenness to be and there are not many cases that elaborate.  However, it is safe to assume that the drinking spouse must become intoxicated habitually and that the frequent intoxication must have an adverse effect on the marriage.  

If you believe you are entitled to a divorce because of your spouse’s habitual drunkenness, it is important that you pay attention to what type of alcohol is being consumed, the quantity and the frequency of consumption.  You will also need to explain how the habitual drunkenness is affecting your marriage.  Some examples of the effect the drunkenness may have on the marriage are that after drinking, your spouse has drastic mood changes, becomes belligerent, engages in frequent verbal altercations or even commits physical abuse.  It is important to link the habitual drunkenness to behavior that is offensive to the marriage.  To assist you in recalling all the details and to aid your attorney in advising you, it is recommended that you take notes to document the drinking and the behavior affecting the marriage.  Often, a spouse is unpleasantly surprised at the amount of alcohol consumed when they review their notes taken over a period of time. Of course, do not take notes and leave them where they may be found by your spouse.