The Mississippi Supreme Court recently addressed a similar scenario in Jenkins v. Jenkins.  In Jenkins, the court was faced with a situation where the lower court granted a person a divorce on the ground of Habitual, Cruel and Inhuman Treatment.  The guilty spouse tried to defend the charge by claiming the defense of “recrimination”, which is a common-law defense that states if each party proves a fault ground for divorce then neither is entitled to a divorce.  The defense of recrimination has been altered by Miss. Code Ann. 93-5-3, which allows a court to grant a divorce, even if both parties prove a fault ground for divorce, by determining which spouse’s actions constituted the proximate cause of the destruction of the marriage.  The Mississippi Supreme Court determined that although the wife admitted committing adultery, the trial evidence showed that the husband’s habitual, cruel and inhuman treatment was the cause of the divorce, not the wife’s adultery, and that the lower court properly denied the husband’s recrimination defense.

Although a scenario where both parties are committing actions that constitute divorce grounds is not the preferable situation, a spouse may still be able to obtain a divorce without his/her spouse’s consent if the facts are supportive.  If you find yourself in this situation, speaking with an attorney to help analyze the proximate cause of the destruction of the marriage very early on is vital.

We reaffirm the rule that the polestar consideration in child custody cases is the best interest and welfare of the child. The age of the child is subordinated to that rule and is but one factor to be considered. Age should carry no greater weight than other factors to be considered, such as: health, and sex of the child; a determination of the parent that has had the continuity of care prior to the separation; which has the best parenting skills and which has the willingness and capacity to provide primary child care; the employment of the parent and responsibilities of that employment; physical and mental health and age of the parents; emotional ties of parent and child; moral fitness of parents; the home, school and community record of the child; the preference of the child at the age sufficient to express a preference by law; stability of home environment and employment of each parent, and other factors relevant to the parent-child relationship.

Marital fault should not be used as a sanction in custody awards. Relative financial situations is not controlling since the duty to support is independent of the right to custody. Differences in religion, personal values and lifestyles should not be the sole basis for custody decisions.

If you are involved in a custody situation or are thinking about filing for divorce, a review of the Albright Factors could assist you in undertanding what information is important to the judge.  However, it is critical that you discuss your situation with an attorney immediately if you feel custody will be an issue.  Failing to get sound legal advice as soon as possible could cause you to unknowingly engage in behavior that will hurt your ability to obtain custody.

1.  Natural Impotency

2.  Adultery

3. Being sentenced to any penitentiary, and not pardoned before being sent there

4.  Willful, continued and obstinate desertion for the space of one (1) year

5. Habitual drunkenness

6. Habitual and excessive use of opium, morphine or other like drug

7. Habitual cruel and inhuman treatment

8. Mental illness or mental retardation at the time of marriage, if the party complaining did not know of that infirmity

9. Marriage to some other person at the time of the pretended marriage between the parties

10. Pregnancy of the wife by another person at the time of the marriage, if the husband did not know of the pregnancy

11. Either party may have a divorce if they are related to each other within the degrees of kindred whom marriage is prohibited by law

12. Incurable mental illness

Obviously, some of the divorce grounds are going to be more frequently used than others.  For example, adultery and habitual, cruel and inhuman treatment are the most commonly asserted grounds for divorce while others like natural impotency and being related to one another are very seldomly asserted. 

In later posts, we’ll discuss in more detail the individual grounds for divorce and what constitutes each ground.  If you are considering a divorce, a quick review of the allowable divorce grounds should provide an overview of what circumstances need to exist in order to get a divorce without the consent of your spouse.

Typically, the husband and wife both sign a document called a Joint Complaint in which they ask the court to grant them a divorce on the basis that irreconcilable differences have arisen between them.  Usually there is a written agreement attached to the Joint complaint that addresses the division of assets and debt, provides for custody and visitation and addresses other issues important in a divorce.  Both spouses will also need to complete a financial statement, unless they agree to waive that requirement.  Once the Joint Complaint is signed, it is filed with the Chancery Clerk’s office in the county of either spouse’s residence, if both are Mississippi residents.  If one of the spouses is not a Mississippi resident, then it should be filed in the county where the Mississippi resident lives.  The Chancery Clerk will require the parties to pay a filing fee at the time they file the Joint Complaint. 

Once the Joint Complaint is filed, it must remain on file for at least 60 days before the judge has the authority to grant the divorce.  In comparison to divorces based on grounds such as adultery, the 60 day period is pretty quick.  During that 60 day waiting period, it is important to remember that you are not divorced.  Even though an agreement has been reached on a divorce, no spouse likes to see their husband/wife displaying their new “companion” in public and such actions often result in litigation.

Once the 60 day waiting period is over, your lawyer will meet with the judge to present the written agreement for approval.  The Court will review the agreement, along with the financial statements, to determine if the agreement is adequate and sufficient.  If so, the Court will sign a document called a Judgment of Divorce that, when filed with the Chancery Clerk, will grant the divorce and end the marriage. 

There are other ways to obtain a divorce on the ground of Irreconcilable Differences and there are variations to the process, but this procedure is the most common.  If you are considering a divorce, you should contact an attorney to discuss your options.  Because of its simple procedure, many people try to get divorced without an attorney.  While this may save a little money on the front end, you may end up with a really bad divorce agreement that you cannot change.  It is well-worth the investment in an attorney to make sure your divorce is done properly.