This isn’t really divorce related, but worth addressing.  Wesley Snipes looks like he’ll be spending the next few years in prison for tax evasion. He was convicted of tax evasion but while he appealed the conviction he was out on bail.  Now that the appeal is concluded, so is his freedom, at least for a while.  While Snipes intentionally sought to evade taxation, and will pay a heavy price, normal people can find themselves with a financially devastating tax situation if they neglect their taxes.  While not a criminal offense normally, failing to file returns or to pay the required tax results in penalties and interest and a debt collector that you really can’t hang up on.  In the middle of a divorce, the last thing a divorcing person needs is delinquent tax debt.  File your returns, pay your taxes and avoid significant financial consequences.  Remember – the IRS will still be married to you even if your spouse is not.

Recently, a company called SafeGuard Marketing Management, Inc. began selling a product called “Divorce Insurance.”  You certainly have to admire the ingenuity of a company to come up with a product like this.  However, the value of the product is questionable both morally and financially.  If you are contemplating marrying the love of your life, but at the same time anticipating a divorce, then you should probably just skip the pain and not get married.  The concept of “divorce insurance” trivializes marriage and in my view, encourages people to make no effort to resolve their differences.  In fact, it would actually provide an incentive to divorce and contribute to the destruction of many families.  If potential spouses want “insurance” against divorce, then their money would be better spent by investing in premarital counseling and marriage counseling, if problems arise.   Here is an article written by an attorney in California that expands further on the topic.

Divorce can be devastating financially as incomes are split, property is sold at a loss and the financial burden of single parenting takes effect.  For this reason, the financial toll must always be considered when couples are considering a divorce.  According to a recent article on findings by the Census Bureau, a study over a period of 15 years showed that couples who remained married during that time built up nearly twice the net worth of people who remained single.  Considering the visible toll on finances caused by divorce and the findings by the Census Bureau, a stark picture is painted for those that end their marriages.  Of course, situations differ among couples and a thorough evaluation of your finances is a critical component in understanding the pros and cons of divorce and reconciliation.

A very important, but often overlooked, tool in avoiding nasty divorces is a thorough prenuptial agreement.  Here is an excellent article on the need for prenuptial agreements in estate planning but it is just as applicable in the divorce context.

It is nearly impossible to read the news and not see something about Jon and Kate Gosselin, their divorce and their television show, Jon and Kate Plus 8.  The television show follows the Gosselins as they raise sextuplets.  While you cannot help but feel bad for the children as their publicity-hungry parents divorce in the public eye, it is nevertheless interesting from a divorce perspective to see how the dissolution of a marriage in the public spotlight mirrors those of people who quietly divorce without publicity - all are driven at some level by self preservation, the need for security, the need to “win” and greed.

One of the headlines today is “Kate Accuses Jon of Taking $200,000.” Apparently, Jon and Kate maintained over $200,000 in a joint account and after being notified that he would no longer be part of the show, Jon withdrew all but $1,000 of the money.  Perhaps Jon had a good reason for the withdrawal, but his “reason” had the effect of leaving his spouse and children with very little to make ends meet.

When two people separate and anticipate divorce, it is natural to be wary of the other’s intentions and to be mindful of your own financial security, especially when children are involved.  However, it is important to remember that in Mississippi, when money is withdrawn from an account held jointly with your spouse, that the money also belongs to your spouse.  This does not mean withdrawing money is improper (unless a court has prohibited any withdrawals), but you may ultimately have to account for the money if a court decides that you overreached and withdrew more than your share of the marital funds.  In the Gosselin matter, Kate withdrew $100,000 earlier this year and was ordered to return the money.  Now that Jon has done the same thing, it is hard to imagine a court not ordering him to return some or all of the funds to his wife, especially considering she is now raising their eight children alone.

When withdrawing funds from a jointly held account while a divorce is pending, it is important to be reasonable and know that you may be ordered to return all or some of the money, even if it has been spent.  While winning the race to the bank may be beneficial, the benefit may only be temporary.