Posts Tagged ‘Mississippi Divorce’

When Does Flirting Become Cheating?

Thursday, July 14th, 2011

by Chris Palmer

When does online or text flirting become cheating? That is not a simple question to answer in the context of a divorce but a recent article has articulated nine red flags that may indicate that more than flirting is occurring.  While none of the listed factors are proof that a spouse is cheating, they are an excellent indicator that more investigation is needed. In fact, a study indicated that the Internet is typically the first step toward the ultimate goal of real-life cheating.  If you suspect your spouse is cheating, call us immediately because you may need to act quickly to preserve evidence critical to your divorce.

Marriage and Money

Thursday, August 19th, 2010

by Chris Palmer

Divorce can be devastating financially as incomes are split, property is sold at a loss and the financial burden of single parenting takes effect.  For this reason, the financial toll must always be considered when couples are considering a divorce.  According to a recent article on findings by the Census Bureau, a study over a period of 15 years showed that couples who remained married during that time built up nearly twice the net worth of people who remained single.  Considering the visible toll on finances caused by divorce and the findings by the Census Bureau, a stark picture is painted for those that end their marriages.  Of course, situations differ among couples and a thorough evaluation of your finances is a critical component in understanding the pros and cons of divorce and reconciliation.

Divorcing if Both Spouses Have Committed Wrongdoing

Thursday, August 5th, 2010

by Chris Palmer

The typical scenario when a spouse learns that the other has done something that destroys the marriage is that the innocent spouse meets with a lawyer, who guides the spouse through the divorce process.  Occasionally, though, you find that while listening to the “outrage” that a client expresses over learning that their spouse has had an affair you also learn that your “innocent” client has also been having an affair.  So what do you do if a client wants a divorce but both spouses are committing adultery?  An agreed resolution on the ground of Irreconcilable Differences would be the preferable outcome, but litigation may be the only option in some circumstances.

The Mississippi Supreme Court recently addressed a similar scenario in Jenkins v. Jenkins.  In Jenkins, the court was faced with a situation where the lower court granted a person a divorce on the ground of Habitual, Cruel and Inhuman Treatment.  The guilty spouse tried to defend the charge by claiming the defense of “recrimination”, which is a common-law defense that states if each party proves a fault ground for divorce then neither is entitled to a divorce.  The defense of recrimination has been altered by Miss. Code Ann. 93-5-3, which allows a court to grant a divorce, even if both parties prove a fault ground for divorce, by determining which spouse’s actions constituted the proximate cause of the destruction of the marriage.  The Mississippi Supreme Court determined that although the wife admitted committing adultery, the trial evidence showed that the husband’s habitual, cruel and inhuman treatment was the cause of the divorce, not the wife’s adultery, and that the lower court properly denied the husband’s recrimination defense.

Although a scenario where both parties are committing actions that constitute divorce grounds is not the preferable situation, a spouse may still be able to obtain a divorce without his/her spouse’s consent if the facts are supportive.  If you find yourself in this situation, speaking with an attorney to help analyze the proximate cause of the destruction of the marriage very early on is vital.

Mississippi Divorce and Estate Planning

Wednesday, February 10th, 2010

by Chris Palmer

When people divorce, one of the often overlooked items are such things as life insurance beneficiary designations, retirement account beneficiary designations and pay on death designations on financial accounts.  These are not things that people deal with on a regular basis and therefore forget that the designations were ever made.  If these issues are not addressed promptly and properly, a very unfortunate situation could erupt at your death between your family members and a former spouse.

Sometimes death and divorce sometimes nearly coincide.  Time Magazine recently wrote an article titled “Facing Death and Divorce at the Same Time.”  While focus was placed on Dennis Hopper filing for divorce from his current wife, while at the same time attempting to fight terminal cancer, a valuable lesson may be taken from the article – know what you have and speak with an attorney early.  As the article states, spouses are normally not allowed to disinherit their spouse.  Mississippi follows the same law, making it very difficult to prevent your spouse from receiving a certain portion of your estate.  Of course, this becomes particularly important once a decision is made to divorce, as not too many people want their estate to go in part to a spouse that is in process of divorcing them.

The reason it is important to discuss estate issues with you lawyer as soon as you begin a divorce proceeding is that divorces take months, not days, to finalize.  A husband and wife are often living completely separate lives, including with new significant others, while the finalization of the divorce is far away.  A lawyer knowledgeable in the area of estate planning can walk you through some steps that will minimize the problems that would occur should you pass away during that period.  If a divorce case is pending, you may be limited in what you can because of court restrictions.  However, that does not mean that you can’t take steps to preserve as much of your estate as possible for your heirs.  At minimum, you can come to a plan on what to do as soon as your divorce is final.  You do not want your new wife to find out years later that the ex-wife that ran off with the pool boy just received all of your life insurance because you forgot to change the beneficiary designation.

Talk to your lawyer early and ask questions.  Be aware of areas where you may have designated your spouse as beneficiary to an account or insurance plan.  Finally, as soon as you are divorced, have a new Last Will and Testament prepared.

Divorce is Expensive

Tuesday, January 19th, 2010

by Chris Palmer

Everyone knows divorces can get pretty expensive.  A department store has come up with a solution to help newly divorced people get back on their feet – a divorce registry.  The department store has figured out that with people basically losing half of their belongings in a divorce, family and friends may want to purchase them a gift, much as they do for a wedding, so that items such as irons, toasters and the like may be replenished.  I’m not sure how successful this will be, but it definitely draws attention to the impact a divorce has on items that are often overlooked.

When a couple divorces in Mississippi, all marital property must be divided.  For ease of reference, marital property is essentially all items purchased or accumulated during the marriage by either party, although there are exceptions.  While most people focus on the larger items like vehicles, televisions and furniture, households are filled with all sorts of items that must also be divided.  A person may not realize until after a separation, how much replacement of household items costs.  These are costs that are in addition to attorneys fees and income lost from the other spouse.

When separating, it is advisable for both spouses, assuming they can agree, to go through the marital residence together and divide all the items room by room.  A list can be created at the same time so each will have a record.  Although a person often is anxious to move on and only focuses on the big items, spending a little time on the little things will save you a lot of money down the road.